Gregg....yep, I too play music for the love of it,not the $.
Thats why I started & why Im still at it.Any $ is icing on the cake.
The reason I moved here was that I had gone about as far as i could back home & learned all I could.
Ive never learned anything being the best player in the band,... I learn when Im in over my head & have to rely on my heart,knowledge & years of practice that will hopefully kick in & save my A**.
Thats why Im having yet another in a series of lessons in humility tomorrow...I have to play in front of Buddy & Dave ..& I usually have to follow Buddy!!! Sure, sounds like name dropping, but it is really a privledge, an honor & a responsibility.Try it sometime...
you find out who you are & what youre made of rather quickly.

I wanted to learn & thats what I got....the opprotunity to LEARN.
One good thing, after youve played for E its pretty hard for anyone else to spook you

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The point here is that learning & application leads to confidence & confidence decreases insecurity & lack of insecurity lessens the need for "people skills" & if friction arises at a session or feelings are stepped on,(which can happen when creative people & their emotions are gathered together), one can act rather than to react & keep ones focus, poise & perspective.In other words, if Im ok, youre ok. If Im messed up, human nature is to try to assign blame for hurt feelings & the last one I like to look at is myself

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The best people skills Ive ever learned are the ones that keep me in check, not you.
Oh, & if you think that a producer doesnt want you to knock him out with your playing, fine.(I dont mean dominating the session, Im talking the chill bump factor here) .
Just be prepared for him to continue to look for someone who does

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Id rather work 1 date a year for someone who wants to be knocked out, rather than 300 for someone who expects mediocrity & mediocrity is what we have here today in the County Music industry.
Now Im all through with this thread so any shots anyone may wish to fire across my bow will not be returned. I'll be too busy trying to apply what Im fixin' to learn tomorrow.
Just be careful not to pi$$ me off, you never know,Dave & I may get the keys to the Ferrari......then you'll all be screwed

.its been a hoot....
Good luck to all...Raggs